Acceptance

Accepting Inconveniences as a Part of Life

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Sometimes we think certain things limit us from doing what we want. So we try to plan for options that would put excitement in our lives. But the reality is that we will always have inconveniences in our lives. Inconveniences are a part of life.

We have to learn to accept everything that comes our way and learns to make adjustments upon their arrival. No one wants to feel physical or emotional pain.

Must of us would rather do without pain, but we can’t do without pain. Pain is a barometer to let us know how far we can go. It keeps us alive. The pain is telling us how much we can bear in a certain situation. So pain is good for us most of the time.




Accepting All Parts of Us

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Do we know ourselves? If we knew more about ourselves, we could make better decisions. It’s all right to have our likes as well as know about our dislikes. It’s all right to have strengths as well as know about our weaknesses.

It’s all right to feel vulnerable in front of close friends. It’s all right to feel  secure in ourselves as well as know about our insecurities.  Life isn’t about being perfect but being genuine and honest with ourselves, which means to accept all parts of us.

We’re more accepting of each other when we show our humanity and our vulnerability than if we show our superiority.  Showing superiority is only a cover up for feeling inferior.

It’s all right to know that about ourselves, because when we see this superiority complex in others, we’re not so quick to react to them but to express our understanding and acceptance.

Happiness Requires Great Labor

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If we know what things make us happy, why don’t we pursue them?  What stops us from pursuing what matters to us? What we want is just a dream, if we don’t pursue and make a plan.

We need a plan or a direction or a goal to keep on track on what we want in life.  How can we know about happiness if there is no rain?  Are the things we want in our lives will make us happy?  We’ve heard this cliché, “the grass is not always greener on the other side.”

Is life about being happy all the time or is life about learning, and making someone else happy. Happiness is something we do and something done to us. Happiness requires great labor if we want it.

In some many ways, we already have what we want; we just need a change in our attitude. A change in our surroundings is only temporary. But a change in our attitude makes us thankful for what we already have, that’s what makes us happy.

Different Personalities; Different Perspectives

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We ought not let others define who we are as people.  Sometimes we think that because someone wants us to be a certain way doesn’t mean there is something wrong with us. We’re all unique people.  Each of us looks at the world slightly different.

Sometimes, we find ourselves wanting to define or to change someone’s personality. We ought to leave the other person alone because he or she will, for the most part, find his or her own way through life just as we’re finding our own way.

Variety of personalities is better than everyone trying to fit into one type of personality.   We need different perspectives and different gifts and talents to give as citizens of the universe.

The Life we Live

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“Life isn’t something you can give an answer to today,” Milton Erickson

We don’t know the ultimate question about why we are here. But since we’re here we might as well enjoy it, learn from it and experience it thoroughly. Then we can pass down our experiences to the next generation. Life is about learning about the self and how we interact with the world around us. Learning about our dislikes and our likes. Learning that each one of us is unique. So, we don’t need be afraid to be ourselves and we can learn to appreciate the imperfections of ourselves as well as others. No one is without imperfections we dislike— but we must accept them. Imperfections only make us perfectly human.

 

Illuminating Our Dark Side

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What is life? An illusion, a shadow, a story. And the greatest good is little enough: for all life is a dream, and dreams themselves are only dreams.

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“If you are uncertain about something, you tend to avoid it.” Milton Erickson

Uncertainty is another word for doubt.  Doubting is another form of not knowing.  We don’t know how we will react to something revealed to us that’s unknown. When we fear the unknown, our fears begin to grow.  It can grow into other areas of our lives as well, if we’re not careful.  Our scope of understanding gets narrowed, when we don’t seek out and learn what’s behind the  door of the basement cellar.   We can open the cellar door and turn on light of knowledge and learn something valuable really about yourself.  We create our reality and our truth about ourselves and project them into the world.

Diversity and Acceptance

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“I think the faults that you recall in human beings give their charm to that individual that enable you to recognize and remember that individuals,” Milton Erickson

No one is perfect.  We all come in different shapes, sizes and colors.  Perfection is an internal standard that blinds us from what is real. It can keep us from being objective and observant.  But in the above quote, Erickson reframes it nicely.   He wants us to see our faults as charming and unique.  Erickson believes that acceptance is possible when it comes to our faults. When we accept ourselves as we are, then we can focus on our potentials and on what’s possible for change.  And when we accept ourselves, we can then easily accept the faults of others.   So let us charm ourselves and everyone around us and no longer look for faults to fit some internal standard.  Instead, we see that our faults are just another characteristic or attribute of ourselves.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reconcile To the Unfairness of Life

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“I had to learn to reconcile myself to the unfairness of life,” Milton Erickson

Life is not always fair and we must reconcile ourselves of this truism.  If we put  effort into something, then a reward should come our way.  If we give or make sacrifices for the greater good we should get something in return.  When good people work so hard to get somewhere but find that there is nothing at the end of day, that’s very difficult to reconcile.

Erickson learns this early on in his career as a physician when he had to tell the grim news to a young beautiful girl that she’d been diagnosed with a fatal disease and then Erickson treated an older patient who has lived his life as an alcoholic and is in reasonable good health, who may live way into his 80s.  Well, Erickson had to reconcile himself to the unfairness of those two examples.  Erickson had to close his eyes and increase his scope of his entire career.  Because he know he had better reconcile now, because as he grows into his career, he will alway meet the unfairness of life.  This is a good lesson we should all live in our own careers and personal life that life is not always fair.