Appreciation

Learning From Our Parent(s)

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Parenting
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What we learned from our parents will stay with us our whole lives. Our parents were our models on how to deal with everyday life. 

We have learned good things and the not so good things from the actions of our parents. We’re eternally grateful for all the things they have done for us and accept the things that they haven’t done for us as we were growing up.

Indeed not all our needs were met. But as adult we can meet our own needs. Therefore, we can stop blaming our parents. We need to see our parents not as gods but as human beings and humans aren’t perfect.

So let us lower our expectations and be more accepting towards our parents. When we’re more accepting, our grief gets smaller.

Be Confident Being You

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Be Your Self by Anna Laurini
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Instead of being impressed about the confidence that another may have, we ought to be confident being ourselves because being confident in ourselves means self-acceptance.

Without self-acceptance there is no confidence. Being confident means feeling good about our selves while in the moment. When we’re confident in ourselves others take notice.

Others are drawn to us when we express confidence, because other people want to know more about us. Expressing confidence is not about hiding our faults.

Besides, no one is without fault. In spite of our faults, we can express our confidence.  Being confident is fully being our selves without reservations.

We don’t have to wonder how others think about us because we’re already accepting everything about us; therefore, we’re more accepting of others.

On Being Grateful

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Sometimes our attention is focused too much on unpleasant events in our lives or in the world. We forget too soon how grateful we are to be alive.

If we just stand back and see what things that we’re grateful for, then we’ll appreciate life better than before. Some of us are grateful for our health.

Some of us might say that we’re grateful for our kids or grandkids. Some of us might say that we’re grateful for our parents.

Some of us might say that we’re grateful for our teachers that made a difference in our lives and that had life-changing effects on us personally.

Some of us might be grateful for having good friends. Some of us might be grateful for a loving pet. When we focus on the things that make us grateful, the weight of unpleasantness is lifted from our shoulders

Thanksgiving

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Thanksgiving, 25 Nov 2010. The table is ready... and so are the people.
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Thanksgiving is a time to get together with families and friends. It’s a stressful time as well. Some of us have families far away to meet and some of us don’t have any families at all.

Thanksgiving is a time to catch up on what the other has done for the past year.  Some of us see thanksgiving as just another day. For however we see it, we can still be thankful for what we have in our personal lives.

Sometimes we are led to believe that buying or having more things will make us happy.  It is not true that money can buy happiness.

A reporter once asked a father, who lived in one of the poorest third world countries, about what made him happy, the father answered with a smile, his family— and that’s saying a lot.

 

 

Happiness Requires Great Labor

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Happiness
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If we know what things make us happy, why don’t we pursue them?  What stops us from pursuing what matters to us? What we want is just a dream, if we don’t pursue and make a plan.

We need a plan or a direction or a goal to keep on track on what we want in life.  How can we know about happiness if there is no rain?  Are the things we want in our lives will make us happy?  We’ve heard this cliché, “the grass is not always greener on the other side.”

Is life about being happy all the time or is life about learning, and making someone else happy. Happiness is something we do and something done to us. Happiness requires great labor if we want it.

In some many ways, we already have what we want; we just need a change in our attitude. A change in our surroundings is only temporary. But a change in our attitude makes us thankful for what we already have, that’s what makes us happy.

The Life we Live

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Life is a meandering pathway

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“Life isn’t something you can give an answer to today,” Milton Erickson

We don’t know the ultimate question about why we are here. But since we’re here we might as well enjoy it, learn from it and experience it thoroughly. Then we can pass down our experiences to the next generation. Life is about learning about the self and how we interact with the world around us. Learning about our dislikes and our likes. Learning that each one of us is unique. So, we don’t need be afraid to be ourselves and we can learn to appreciate the imperfections of ourselves as well as others. No one is without imperfections we dislike— but we must accept them. Imperfections only make us perfectly human.

 

Diversity and Acceptance

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“I think the faults that you recall in human beings give their charm to that individual that enable you to recognize and remember that individuals,” Milton Erickson

No one is perfect.  We all come in different shapes, sizes and colors.  Perfection is an internal standard that blinds us from what is real. It can keep us from being objective and observant.  But in the above quote, Erickson reframes it nicely.   He wants us to see our faults as charming and unique.  Erickson believes that acceptance is possible when it comes to our faults. When we accept ourselves as we are, then we can focus on our potentials and on what’s possible for change.  And when we accept ourselves, we can then easily accept the faults of others.   So let us charm ourselves and everyone around us and no longer look for faults to fit some internal standard.  Instead, we see that our faults are just another characteristic or attribute of ourselves.