Emotions

Our Feelings, Our Emotions, Our Thoughts

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  FEELINGS

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When it comes to emotions patience is required of us. Sometimes it is hard to control how we feel about things. Feelings tell us what we’re thinking at the moment. It is easy to compartmentalized our thoughts from what we feel. It is not easy to trace what thoughts we’re saying to ourselves to what emotions we feel. However, our thoughts don’t necessarily have to be traced. What we can do is to feel our feelings and if we need to express our feelings, do so— but also to own our feelings.  We’re not responsible for what we feel, but we’re ultimately responsible for how we use our feelings. We can’t allow our feelings to run us but we do need to allow ourselves to emote our feelings appropriately because that’s the natural order of things.

On Respecting Yourself

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For us to respect others, we must first respect ourselves. Respecting ourselves means to do things we know is right and healthy. If we’re continuously placing ourselves in difficult situations and we know we have a choice to get out of them, then we’re disrespecting ourselves. If we ignore the same emotions that keep creeping up and we are not dealing with them, then we’re disrespecting ourselves. If we knowingly give our power away and aren’t using what abilities we have, then we’re disrespecting ourselves. If we aren’t being honest with ourselves, then we’re disrespecting ourselves.

 

When Respect is Lost

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When there is hostility, anxiety, depression, respect is lost. When we respect ourselves our hostility, anxiety and depression decreases. The person who is hostile to another person has lost self-respect. This means the person is off-balance.  All humans have an instinct for self-preservation. In an evolutionary view, we have an old brain and a new brain. The old brain regulates our body systems such as our respiratory system, circulatory system, etc. The old brain is responsible for our moods as well.  The new brain is our cerebral cortex which is responsible for reasoning, decision-making and planning.

Since the old brain is responsible for regulating our body systems, it has to keep the systems in balance. For example, if our body is low in sugar, then the old brain will tell the body to find a way to balance the sugar level. We all experienced walking up a flight of steps finding ourselves breathing so hard to catch our breath. This is because the old part of brain has to tell the body that it needs more oxygen to the lungs and the heart has to beat faster to pump more blood for us to walk a flight of steps. Our species has survived for many thousands of years, because of the old brain.

Most people would get upset if they found a scratch on their newly bought car, or if someone slams a phone down in someone’s ear.  When we get this hostile is because we are off-balance. The old brain is trying to compensate for the lack of respect. If we understanding this about ourselves, then our hostility will decrease while our respect increases.

 

 

When Feelings Come and Go

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Feelings come and feelings go. We ought to realize we can’t depend on feelings when it comes to starting and completing a project or a task. But most of the time we do feel good after working hard all day.

Even the smallest things we do can give us a feeling of accomplishment.  Starting something new can be the hardest thing to overcome, because we’re truly battling with our thoughts, questioning us about whether this will be worth our time and energy.

These internal conflicts can be settled if we think about the pros and the cons of tasks and what are the risks.

The part of us that’s resistance to starting something new just want to be assured that we’re going to get something out of it, such as, payment, enjoyment, experience, and reward that will help us in the long run.

Risks will always be involved in anything we do. Mistakes big or small will happen. Mistakes are for us to learn and improve.

Enjoying Ourselves

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When we let ourselves be free to be ourselves inside, it’s easier to enjoy ourselves. We are human beings with different feelings and emotions that we express.

Some of us dislike feeling uncomfortable emotion, like anger, because we think anger is what we are. Feelings are not at all who we are but our feelings are a way to gage how we respond and react to internal and external events in our lives.

It’s better to accept all parts of ourselves because then we don’t have to be someone we’re not. It’s nice that we can experience all emotions.

When we do experience a negative emotion we’re allowing ourselves freedom to be ourselves, thus allowing other to freely be as well. Our inner conflicts are resolving when we begin the self-accepting process.

Being Centered

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Sometimes we make things worse than what they are. When we get impatient, we get quick to anger. Anger is the last thing we need when we’re in a situation that needs us to keep our cool.

Mistakes are easily made when we’re angry because our minds become cloudy when we need our mind clear at that moment. Giving ourselves a time-out, can help us to center ourselves.

Being centered helps us to make better decisions and to make us more effective in our work or project. Anger can be useful if we channel it to be used for injustice or protection.

So Far So Good: Breaking Down Fears

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“A man jumped off the top of a skyscraper.  As he passed the third floor window he was heard to mutter: ‘So far so good’.”

When it comes to fear, we don’t jump into something without having some reservations. Most of our fears aren’t about jumping into something that causes death.

The example above is extreme, but sometimes what we fear, feels like we’re jumping into something that causes certain death. But most of our fears are all in our head; they aren’t real.

I don’t recommend anyone to jump. But whatever we fear that we have to jump into, we can have the attitude of the man who said, “So far so good.”

This attitude can help us get through the fear, knowing that whatever event that’s increasing our fear, we can say to ourselves: “So far so good,” whether that’s speaking in a front of a large audience, flying or getting in an elevator. The only thing that’s certain is uncertainty, but we take courage anyways.

Listen to Reasoning and Follow your Heart

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Anyone who is alive today has the stuff to bring a dream into reality. We just need to get out-of-the-way and let things happen. Either we hold ourselves back, or we believe what others tell us; that it won’t work.

It’s okay to listen to our loved-ones and friends because they mean well, but it’s also okay to listen to our hearts. Granted we do need to hear a sounding voice to keep it real but a sounding voice doesn’t have to stifle our dreams either.

We should never lose our dreams, especially when the dream is near to our hearts. It’s all right to follow our hearts and it’s also all right to listen to reasoning—a balance of both would do!

Deleting Our Past

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There are things in our lives we wish we could delete. It is easier to delete a word or a sentence from our computer than to delete something in our lives that we don’t want to face.  These issues will always come up for us.  Pop psychology would call this “unfinished business.”

Feelings and emotions come up and we don’t know why.  We all experienced a tear flowing down our cheeks and we don’t know why that is.  We’re not thinking about anything particular that would cause that.

A sound, a word, an image can trigger something from our past.  There are  things we aren’t aware of or things we’ve forgotten about that can be a trigger from our past.

How can we put perspective on our unfinished business? Well, the past will always be in the past, there is no turning back. But current events in our lives that trigger feeling and emotions are just indicators that we must stand back and look consciously at what those are and deal with them properly.

What Greater Joy!

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“And what greater joy is there than doing what you want to do?” Milton Erickson

We all want joy in our lives.  When we think back on what made us joyful, we feel a sense of freedom; that we have forgotten about; that’s sometimes lacking in our present lives.  We have an adult way of thinking that restricts us from doing what we want to do as human beings. But we can allow ourselves to do what we want to do— to make us more like human beings, and less like human doings. Human doing is like a machine without feelings and emotions, but as human beings, we can see the colors of the world through our feelings.

 

Feel with the Finger, the Heart, and the Mind

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“We do not just feel with the fingers, but with the heart, the mind.” Milton Erickson

Erickson is reminding us that we feel with our heart as well as our mind. The heart is generally a metaphor of our emotions. Therefore, we feel our emotions. Our minds identify the emotions based on a situation or event in our world. Erickson always bring us back to basics, to experience things fully. Experiencing something different breaks up the routine of our thought processes to help in relieving repressed emotions so they can be felt fully in our heart and mind.

Fearing Little is the Only Way Out

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“And what do you need to fear? Very little that you need to fear.” Milton Erickson

Fear is a feeling. Fear saves lives. Fear is paralyzing. Fear speaks the truth about something. Fear speaks lies, too. Our assumptions about things can fuel a fear. Fear, if not felt, is projecting into something threatening that doesn’t exist. Fear is very real but a perceived danger isn’t. There are big fears and little fears. Big fears are unmanageable but if broken down into smaller fears— manageable.  Erickson, says in his above quote, there is very little that we need to fear.