Ericksonian Principles

Strengths, Setbacks And Progress

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The beautiful things about setbacks is they introduce us to our strengths. — Robin Sharma

A setback is just another obstacle or delay in our progress. When we experience a setback, we find out not only what our weaknesses are but also our strengths. We just have to use our strengths to get us through the obstacle and not be distracted by our weaknesses. Setbacks can be opportunities to find out what we’re made of so we don’t have to give up. We ought to respect our strengths and understand that everyone has weaknesses no one is immune to setbacks. Setbacks are inevitable. Somehow we have this notion that progress moves in a straight line going from point A to point B, but the reality is that there are many dips and falls and more dips and more falls. As long as we continue to move forward, the dips and the falls will not have any effects on our progress. Our progress is built upon our strengths to move through and around the setbacks slow and steady.

[bctt tweet=”The beautiful things about setbacks is they introduce us to our strengths. — Robin Sharma”]

 

 

Look Forward

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Remember, you can’t reach what’s in front of you until you let go of what’s behind you. — Unknown

It isn’t fair to us if we compare our successes to someone else’s successes. Because in truth, we will always find someone more successful than we are and we will find someone less successful than we are. It’s all right to have some healthy competition. However, we’re really competing against ourselves. Since the battle is within us, then that’s where we should look. When we conquer ourselves then we win the battle every time thus comparing ourselves to others is no longer an issue. As we begin to see progress, we begin to feel some satisfaction. We get our satisfaction from ourselves, which means we no longer have to feel threatened by another person’s success.

 

[bctt tweet=”Remember, you can’t reach what’s in front of you until you let go of what’s behind you. — Unknown”]

 

When We Execute Our Intentions

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The best way to keep good intentions from dying is to execute them. — Unknown

It is nice to have good intentions but as we know from our experiences that good intentions won’t get us anywhere. Good intentions are only that, intentions without merit. It feels good to tell ourselves or another person what we want to do to complete a task. However, as we know from our experiences that it is easier to tell someone or ourselves about what we want to do than actually doing the work. We also know from our past experiences that any new thing we do will be difficult at first. However, because it is difficult doesn’t mean that it is necessarily impossible to do. We just have to learn how to plow through the difficult parts because there will be obstacles that we all have to deal with. The good news is that not everything during the process of learning something new will be as difficult. And we need to ask ourselves, is it worth executing our intentions, if they are important to us?

 

[bctt tweet=”The best way to keep good intentions from dying is to execute them. — Unknown”]

 

Repeatedly Do

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“We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” — Aristotle

The only act we need to begin is to start; after that, we make repeats of the new behaviors until they become a habit. When habits are developed, then they become characteristics of our personality. It takes time for new behavior to develop into a habit. This is a constant struggle because we want to stop when we don’t see quick results. Patience is also a key to success or excellence because we have to allow ourselves the room for failure and to fall on our faces and then get back up to start all over again. After everything is said and done, then we can look back on our work and to appreciate the effort we put into the work in a meaningful way.

[bctt tweet=”We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. — Aristotle”]

 

Think Less, Feel More

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Get out of your head and get into your heart. Think less, feel more. — Osho

We’re avoiding feeling pain, when we find ourselves intellectualizing trivia things. Being stoic is only showing everyone else that we don’t have feelings, however, the truth is that we have repressed feelings waiting to be felt. When we learn to feel negative emotions, then we can allow ourselves to feel positive ones like joy. We’re more connected with the world and ourselves when we’re connected with our feelings. Pain is a temporary stay when we start expressing the feeling especially to individual who caused us hurt. There are no more grudges when we let go of hurt feelings just by expressing them. Feelings breath color into our world. No one is saying that we should not think at all, but the quote above is saying that it is better to feel more in our hearts, and think less in our heads.

[bctt tweet=”Get out of your head and get into your heart. Think less, feel more. — Osho”]

 

You Will Know How To Live

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As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

From our birth until now, we have gone through many experiences. Wisdom comes from our experiences. Wisdom is the end result of our experiences. Our abilities are the end result of our experiences. So if we combine both our wisdom and our abilities, then we will know how to live. However, we need to trust our wisdom and our abilities to live a decent life. Trust is relying on self to move forward even when we partially know the answers. We don’t need all the answers to things before we proceed. We will find most of the answers along the way. Doubt is the opposite of trust.  We’re unsure when we doubt ourselves. Doubts are only thoughts and are unreal. So let us allow ourselves to be entrusted with how we live our lives and not allow doubt to stop us from doing just that.

[bctt tweet=”As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “]

 

Overcoming Suffering

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The world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming it. — Helen Keller

It is good to know that we have people all over the world who are overcoming suffering and that gives us hope for those who are suffering. We want to believe that suffering is only temporary so that we have hope in overcoming our own personal suffering. There are emotional and physical suffering to overcome. Life brings to us difficulties. Most of our difficulties are a transitioning period of our lives. Life is always constantly changing. And we’re changing with life difficulties. No one is without difficulties whether we are rich or poor we still have to deal with what life brings to us. Suffering is part of life but isn’t the only part of life we should focus on. We move through our suffering because we must if we want to learn something about ourselves that we didn’t know about.
[bctt tweet=”The world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming it. — Helen Keller”]

 

Until We Value Ourselves

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Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you won’t do anything with it.— M. Scott Peck

What does it mean to value one’s self? How come valuing one’s self go hand in hand with valuing our time? Why is it important that we value ourselves? These are the questions we can ask ourselves. We all want to feel valued from others. However, it starts with how much we value ourselves. There is a certain degree of respect we have for ourselves that’s very important to us. We are most disappointed with ourselves when we make promises to ourselves that we don’t keep. This is where regrets begin to build in one’s life. And we are most satisfied with ourselves when we follow through on our word to ourselves and even when we fail trying, we still get some satisfaction in the effort itself.

 

[bctt tweet=”Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you won’t do anything with it.— M. Scott Peck”]

 

Enjoy Life Now, Not Tomorrow

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If we are ever to enjoy life, now is the time, not tomorrow or next year. — Thomas Dreier

If we’re unhappy today, we don’t have to wait until tomorrow to enjoy life. As a matter of fact, we don’t have to fulfill a dream for us to enjoy life today.  Therefore we don’t have to wait on a fulfilled dream for us to be happy in our lives today. We can make certain choices in our lives for us to enjoy life now. Everything in our lives doesn’t have to be perfect for us to enjoy it. This moment right now as this is read is all we have. Let us enjoy in the moment since our future is not guaranteed. This moment is our opportunity to enjoy life while we have it instead of wasting it on an unfulfilled dream. We can enjoy life by doing the things we’ve been putting off, now.

[bctt tweet=”If we are ever to enjoy life, now is the time, not tomorrow or next year. — Thomas Dreier”]

 

Imperfection Is Okay To Be

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When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are. — Donald Miller

When we wish another person to behave a certain way, but to only be disappointed by his or her behaviors, then it is time for us to lower our own expectations. We need to let go of those expectations and to let them be. We can only do our best and to accept our own foibles and to not reflect our foibles on to another.  Milton Erickson once said to a bride and groom to not give up on your faults, but instead keep them because you’re going to need them to understand your spouse’s. That’s a very powerful statement because we’re forced to understand that everyone is imperfect one way or another and that each one of us has to struggle daily managing our own imperfections. We’re all in this together because no one is without faults.

 

[bctt tweet=”When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are. — Donald Miller”]

It Takes A Single Thought

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Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.— Benjamin Disraeli

Since we can only go as far as are thoughts, we might as well think of great thoughts. What we think is what we are and do. If we say, that we can’t do this, then we won’t even try to find out if we could do it. But if we say, I can do this, and then at least we can give ourselves the opportunity to try. And if we say, that we really want this, then we will not just try, instead we would set a goal, devise a plan to meet that goal, and complete each tasks daily until we reach our goal. Our thoughts are very powerful so we might as well use them to our advantage. It only takes a single thought to change a whole life.

 

[bctt tweet=”Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.— Benjamin Disraeli”]

 

If We Want Something New

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If you want something new, you have to stop doing something old. ― Peter F. Drucker

Routines are useful if we want to have predictability in our lives. However, doing the same things everyday can loose its meaning. Therefore, it is all right to do something new to add some spice to our lives. Have some variety in our lives take the dullness out of life and add great memories and new meanings. Life is what we make it to be not what we think it should be.  We have the resources and the power within us to create an atmosphere that’s different from what we’re familiar with. We all know that trying something different can trigger fear. This fear is triggered because we think a change may threaten our routine. However, the change will only help us to appreciate the routine in our lives that we sometimes take for granted.

 

[bctt tweet=”If you want something new, you have to stop doing something old. ― Peter F. Drucker”]

Making Time For Our Efforts

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“There’s no such thing as being too busy. If you really want something, you’ll make time for it.” — Unknown

When we put in the time we’re forced to put in the effort. When we put in the effort, we’re forced to pay attention and to concentrate on the task at hand. We can make time to do what we want if we really want it and without fooling ourselves with mind tricks. One mind trick we use is when we focus only on how many hours we have left to do something without doing anything at all.  This is how regrets are formed. We see that the hours are ticking away while we wait for some thing to motivate us into doing something. The time that was lost could have been the time to learn, grow and make progress in one’s life. All we need to do is to pick one thing and to do it well. That would be worth our time in the long run.

 

[bctt tweet=”There’s no such thing as being too busy. If you really want something, you’ll make time for it. — Unknown”]

 

 

 

Find Peace First

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Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.’— Marianne Williamson

Not everything will fall into place exactly how we want it. It will be a losing battle if we’re constantly trying to place things in a certain order for us to experience peace. Just as Marianne Williamson says in the above quote that we ought to find our peace first then everything will fall into place. Everything will fall into place because once we find peace; we will begin to see things with a different perspective.  When we have internal peace, then we have no expectations, therefore we experience happiness because we’re no longer worried about how things should be. The peace we’re experiencing will affect our attitude. It is our attitude that will helps us deal with what is before us.

[bctt tweet=”Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.’— Marianne Williamson”]

 

The Power of Change

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When you blame others, you give up your power to change.— Dr. Robert Anthony

It is a lot easier to blame another than to face the fact that we need to make the change ourselves. We don’t realize that when we blame another, we’re giving up our power. When we give up our power, we become helpless and hopeless in the situation. We can’t force another person to change until they’re ready to change. When we’re looking at ourselves to change and when we begin to change, others will take notice and they will be affected by it whether they like it or not. It is always uncertain to know if another person will change and it is always certain to know when we start making our own personal changes.  We change ourselves not hoping that the other person will change, instead, we make the change hoping that we will be a better person first to ourselves and then to others after the change.

 

[bctt tweet=”When you blame others, you give up your power to change.— Dr. Robert Anthony”]

 

 

 

 

Mind Opened By Wonderment

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I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief.— Gerry Spence

When we’re in wonderment mode, we’re encouraging our imaginations to express itself as it wishes allowing our minds to see things that we haven’t seen before.  Wonderment helps us to break up limiting beliefs that can keep us from making strives in our lives.  Wonderment is a good exercise to the mind because it helps to stimulate and expand our minds beyond our beliefs system. The wonderment exercise also builds new associations, which can help break up previous beliefs and allow us to see that we have more choices in life.  Our minds don’t have to be closed by our beliefs but open by wonderment. We’re curious creatures because we want to know how things work.

[bctt tweet=”I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief.— Gerry Spence”]

Grateful Makes Us Joyful

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“It is not joy that makes us grateful. It is gratitude that makes us joyful.” — David Rast

When we look at what we can be thankful for in our lives, it makes us joyful. When we discover what we can do, it makes us joyful. When we do the things we want to do in our lives, it makes us joyful. When we still have our health, it makes us joyful for being alive.  When others are please with our help, it makes us joyful. When we no longer discount the positives, it makes us joyful. So when we’re at our lowest, we can think about what we’re grateful for in our lives. Our sadness turns into joy whenever we look back on what events in our lives made us grateful. It is all in the way we look at things.

 

[bctt tweet=”It is not joy that makes us grateful. It is gratitude that makes us joyful. David Rast “]

 

 

Light In The Heart

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Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart. ~Khalil Gibran

Self-image is a conscious thing. How we interact with others is just a reflection of how we perceive ourselves. What we dislike about another person is really about the part we dislike about ourselves. And what we long for from others is really what we’re not giving to others and ourselves. We will never find the one person who will fill the void of loneliness. We have to fill that void with a purposeful life. When we begin seeing the beauty in our hearts, then our appearance is no longer as important. Appearance is no longer important since we now know that we have others to care about us for us and we care for others because we looked beyond the faces, we see the light of beauty shining in their hearts as well as ours.

 

[bctt tweet=”Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart. ~Khalil Gibran”]

Hard Work Brings Also Luck

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I am a great believer in luck. The harder I work, the more of it I seem to have. — Coleman Cox

Our opportunities are greater when we work diligently to meet our goals. That’s why we just have to hang in there during time of famine. With hard work and some bit of luck, we will succeed. That’s how we add to our good luck is by working steadily towards our goal. When opportunity comes knocking at our door, we will be ready to welcome it. Everything is earned and what is given was merited somehow. So the more we work on our goal, the more opportunities there will be for the taken. We just have to believe in ourselves for this to happen and not allow our thoughts of self-doubt cripple us from the work that will pave the way to success. We don’t have to say to ourselves, “it is because of my background that I shouldn’t pursue my dreams.” Instead we should pursue our dreams because of our background to bring a unique perspective on things.

[bctt tweet=”I am a great believer in luck. The harder I work, the more of it I seem to have. — Coleman Cox”]

The Mind In Rest

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True silence is the rest of the mind, and is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment. ~William Penn

Experiencing solitude helps our mind to clear up from our everyday busy lives. When we’re in solitude by choice, it is easier to go within to experience our internal life. We have an internal life and external life.  It is easier to get caught up in our external life that we don’t have time to sit quietly alone. Our internal life is just as important as our external life. We need and have to respect both.  If we can find a balance of both our internal and our external life, then we can lead a more productive life without experiencing burnout.  Solitude is not loneliness. Loneliness is longing for the company of another while solitude is longing to get away from external stimuli. We all need take a break from the fast pace of the world. If the mind is at rest, then the spirit and the body will follow.

[bctt tweet=”True silence is the rest of the mind, and is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment. ~William Penn”]