Ericksonian Principles

Choose The Pain Of Discipline

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Practice Yoga, Be Healthy! {EXPLORED}

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Everyone must choose one of two pains: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret. — Jim Rohn

In everyone’s life there are pain of discipline and pain of regret. We all know from our own experiences that what we want will require from us self-discipline. Discipline becomes painful when we want to play. Discipline requires of us to focus and concentrate on a task without being distracted on other external cues. Regrets make us look back on the promises we made for ourselves to do things but failed to keep. That’s what makes regret feel so painful. Although the pain of discipline can intensifies at the beginning, middle and ending, the pain of regret can last a lifetime.  The wisdom that we all acquired through our experiences knows what to choose, and that is discipline.

[bctt tweet=”Everyone must choose one of two pains: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret. — Jim Rohn”]

Opportunities

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Endless Possibilities

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Ability is of little account without opportunity. — Napoleon

It is good to be ready when opportunity does approach us. We can always fine-tune our abilities until we find an opportunity to display them. Sometimes opportunities are usually contingent upon a need. Someone may need something done right away and would need the services of others. And sometimes we just have pay closer attention on a problem that needs to be solved especially if it coincides with our abilities to help someone. Opportunities are there if we change the way we see things. There are opportunities that we have to wait for and there are other opportunities that we can create in one’s life.

[bctt tweet=”Ability is of little account without opportunity. — Napoleon”]

 

 

Be At Peace With Them

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Peace

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

It is no good casting out devils. They belong to us, we must accept them and be at peace with them. — D.H. Lawrence

We all have both negative and positive sides to our personality.  However, sometimes it is difficult to admit we have a negative side. If we don’t admit to ourselves we have a negative side to our personality, then how can we feel comfortable sharing friendship and closeness with others who want to know us? No one is without fault. We all have our pet peeves. We all have to bare the burden; beside if it weren’t for our negative side we wouldn’t know much about our positive or our strengths. If we cast out our devils, then how can we understand one another and show empathy and some compassion for others who have faults. It is better to make peace with those things that makes us what we are today.

 

[bctt tweet=”It is no good casting out devils. They belong to us, we must accept them and be at peace with them. — D.H. Lawrence”]

 

Let Your Heart Guide You

Published on by Eugene Morgan

 

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Let your heart guide you. It whispers, so listen carefully. — Littlefoot’s mother,Land Before Time

If we don’t know or we just forgot why we do what we do, then we need to return to our hearts. If our thoughts are preoccupied with a longing to do something, then that’s where our hearts will be. Thus, it is okay to go for what our heart’s desire. It is easier to let go of our doubts when we listen to what our hearts is saying or whispering to us. Things seem to fall in place when our hearts guides us. If we look back in our lives, we will find that when we allow our hearts to guide us, life-changing events will happen in our lives. We can stop the longing for something and start actually doing what our hearts desire. What we think is important to us is what we cherish in our hearts.

 

[bctt tweet=”Let your heart guide you. It whispers, so listen carefully. — Littlefoot’s mother,Land Before Time”]

 

Any Road Will Take You There

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Brighton Beach Road

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there. — Lewis Carroll

Every journey has a road we just have to pick one but not every road is a journey. A road will guide us some but we have to continue moving through life’s difficulties and situations for us to complete our journey. Each day we have an opportunity to go a mile or two. There will be some rainy days, some dry days and there will be some flowers to smell and nice trees to look at. The visibility at times will be near zero while other times we can see the horizon of the earth. We will meet some interesting people and places along the way. Our journey is where we have our learning times. As we move through our journey or road we will take with us many experiences so that we will have stories to tell.

 

[bctt tweet=”If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there. — Lewis Carroll”]

 

 

 

 

 

Start the Healing

Published on by Eugene Morgan

The Healing Arts

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.— Buddha

Sometimes we keep our pain because we want to keep the person or the event in our lives that caused the initial pain. Therefore, we can’t move forward in our lives. If the person(s) or the event(s) that caused the initial pain are no longer in our lives, we gravitate to another person or reenact the event. This isn’t compassion since we can’t heal our sorrows and wounds. It is time to say goodbye to our sorrows and wounds. We no longer have to be defined by them because those things happened in our past. We’re only hurting ourselves no longer the person in our past. Once we realize that it is ourselves that’s causing the hurt, we then can stop them and to start healing by forgiving the past individual and then ourselves for continuing the pain by letting go. This is compassion.

.

[bctt tweet=”Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.— Buddha”]

Birth and Death

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Circle of Life

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

I had seen birth and death but had thought they were different. — T. S. Eliot

Birth is access into this world while death is to exit this world. We live our lives between two unknowns birth and death. We have no memory of our birth and just like sleep we won’t know that we’re dead physically until we’re awaken from it. Our physical body returns to the earth while it takes nutrients from the earth for an unborn baby to grow. Before birth there is darkness and then light and at the time of death there is darkness, and then light.  During contestation period the mother takes care of her body for the preparation for given birth and while most of us either through sickness or hospice care we’re preparing ourselves for the inevitable death. Is birth really the beginning or the ending of something and is death really the ending or the beginning of something.

[bctt tweet=”I had seen birth and death but had thought they were different. — T. S. Eliot”]

Heavy Burden To Carry

Published on by Eugene Morgan

<The Fairer Sex - Laos

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders. — Jewish Proverb

We do want to have a lighter burden but that’s not always possible if we want to make a difference in our progress. Instead of looking for a short cut why not grow into the role we want so that we can make a difference in our lives. We get broader shoulders when we struggle through life’s challenges. We all have burdens to carry, but there are unnecessary burdens we carry. We just got to look for those unnecessary burdens and stop carrying them because they only hold us back with not much energy left. A broader shoulder can only carry so much for so long in one’s life. Once we let go those unnecessary burdens, we’re more than able to handle most anything with broader shoulders.

[bctt tweet=”I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders. — Jewish Proverb”]

 

 

Work Supports Happiness

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Hands

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Employment is nature’s physician, and is essential to human happiness. — Galen

It is through work that we value ourselves the most. Work increases our self-worth. When we don’t have self-worth, we drown in our self-doubt.  Our value increases when others rely on the work we do. No matter how difficult the work, it feels good to help those in need of our services. If work supports good health, then health supports good works.  Human happiness is a result of good health and services for others. Those who are satisfied with good works are just as happy as those who provide the services. It is a win-win situation for all who are involved in the transactions. Work forces us to leave our insecurities at home while we’re forced to use our strengths. Work is essential for our happiness.

[bctt tweet=”Employment is nature’s physician, and is essential to human happiness. — Galen”]

 

 

What things Can We Discover About Ourselves?

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Photographer

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we do not understand. — Frank Herbert

It is through our struggles we have experienced new learnings and, discover something about ourselves along the way. We’ve discovered we can do some things better than other things. We’ve discovered what our strengths are as well as our weaknesses. We’ve discovered that we have certain biases against certain subjects while open towards other subjects. We’ve discovered that we do have limitations but we don’t have to yield to them to meet our goals. We’ve discovered that we do have fears but that we can continue on in spite of them. We’ve discovered that what we feel is not always what’s real. We’ve discovered that our belief that we are limited is an assumption that we haven’t truly tested yet.

 

[bctt tweet=”The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we do not understand. — Frank Herbert”]

It’s In The Struggles

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Struggling to survive

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Changes and progress very rarely are gifts from above. They come out of struggles from below. — Noam Chomsky

Now we are at the speed at which our learnings have slowed down since we’ve been adults. We’ve experienced being stuck because we’ve become set in our ways but now we have a desire to want to change but don’t know how. And we find ourselves forgetting that we do have a storehouse of resources that we can tap into to help to make change so that we can fulfill our wants or our desires in our lives. The treasure is the resource of experiences that each and every one of us possesses. We just have to be reminded of our struggles to learn how to walk, or our struggles to learn how to read our first book, or our struggles to learn how to ride our first bike, or our struggles to learn how to do anything new that’s before us. This is good news because we can look back to see in our past that we have gone through each struggle in which we can build upon and we can make today’s struggles easier to handle. This is our newfound mind-set.

[bctt tweet=”Changes and progress very rarely are gifts from above. They come out of struggles from below. — Noam Chomsky”]

What Can We Learn From Obstacle?

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Overcoming obstacles

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.— Frank A. Clark

We shouldn’t see obstacles as our nemesis but rather as a way to measure ourselves. Obstacles can tell us how we’re growing in our personal journey. We have all experienced obstacles in our own unique way. Obstacles aren’t meant for us to fail but are meant for us grow into what we want to be in our lives. Obstacles chip away the edges of our biases as long as we have a stick-to-it-ness attitude. It is easy to have the attitude in the classic Aesop’s Fables of the fox who couldn’t reach the grapes and only to give up by saying that those grapes were sour anyway.  Instead, we can have the attitude that we can learn something about ourselves about how we deal with obstacles, and about how we dealt with obstacles in the past. Our past is our resources of experiences up to now that we can use to fulfill our dreams and desires.

[bctt tweet=”If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.— Frank A. Clark “]

Valuing Our Talents

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Talent Skate Park

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. — Malcolm S. Forbes

We overvalue what we are not when our egos are inflated. We don’t want to settle for what we already have. Therefore, we don’t use our talents or appreciate our talents enough. Each and every one of us is given talents so that we can use them for a purposeful way. If we need an ego boost, then using our talent in a purposeful way can be satisfying and it will be an ego boost. Life brings meaning into our lives when we use our talents in a purposeful way.

[bctt tweet=”Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. — Malcolm S. Forbes”]

Water Your Grass

Published on by Eugene Morgan

June meadow grasses

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Don’t water your weeds. — Proverb

How come we do things that we know will be harmful to us emotionally, or we sometimes sabotage the very thing that will help us? This is what we called a self-filling prophecy. We say that negative things will happen to us, or we won’t make a real effort in a project because we think it is not going to work anyhow. So when we believe that it won’t work, we find a way to sabotage the project while at the same time thinking that we’re not the problem and the problem is the project. Although a part of us wants to proceed with the project, we don’t want to admit that we’re being resistance. It is an internal conflict, which only keeps us off track when we know it is the right thing to do.

 

[bctt tweet=”Don’t water your weeds. — Proverb”]

Add Better Things

Published on by Eugene Morgan

All good things come to an end

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

 

“The only way you may correct the bad things in your past is to add better things to your future.” — Shiloh Morrison

When we add better things to our future to correct the bad things in our past, we begin to see a trail of happiness. When the better things in our future become our present and then our past, we begin to see a life that’s worth living.  Our attention is no longer on our unpleasant past events, but on adding better things in our lives. It’s all right to let go of the past to do good things today. Milton Erickson once said that we have good luck and bad luck and that we needn’t add to the bad luck. Erickson’s implication is to add or do good things to our lives and to share that experience with others.

 

[bctt tweet=”The only way you may correct the bad things in your past is to add better things to your future. — Shiloh Morrison”]

The Waves of Life

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Surfing on Thanksgiving

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn how to surf. — Jon Kabat-Zinn

Life is about learning. We learn about the world and how we react to the world. We learn about ourselves as we experience life each day. We learn how to deal with life difficulties through our experiences. We  have our own way of dealing with life difficulties.   As long as we live, we will go through life transitions. We’re not the same person as we were five years ago and will not be the same person today five years into the future. We change and readjust our external life and just as we readjust to changes in our internal life. We must continue to adapt to life changes if we don’t we will bring to ourselves unnecessary stresses in our lives. But if we learn to adapt, we will be able to surf above the surface of the water of life.

[bctt tweet=”You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn how to surf. — Jon Kabat-Zinn”]

 

 

On Becoming A Habit

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Skill

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

The hard must become habit. The habit must become easy. The easy must become beautiful. — Doug Henning

It is easy to find us admiring another person’s talent in how he or she uses what seems to be without effort. We forget that it took that person time and dedication to acquire such high level of skill. We think learning a skill is all physical work, however, the brain is involved also while developing new neuro-pathways. It is a mind and body learning experiences. The brain is learning how to coordinate the unfamiliar arm movements all the while sending signals or communication back and forth. Just about everything we learn at first will take some effort to develop adequately and then beautifully at end. And that’s how habits are made whether they’re good or bad. We use our habits to our advantage when we need them to work for us

[bctt tweet=”The hard must become habit. The habit must become easy. The easy must become beautiful. — Doug Henning “]

The Joy Of Creating Joy

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Joy

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.― Milton H. Erickson

Milton Erickson is saying here in the above quote is that we have the power to create joy. Pain reminds us that we’re still alive and that we can feel. Pain is a mechanism of keeping us alive and that’s life. We deal with pain everyday whether it’s physical for some and/or psychological for others. However, we don’t have to be defined or even identify ourselves by pain because pain is temporary most of the time. We also can experience joy in our lives now and look forward to experiencing joy together with friends and family members because we have the power.  We appreciate joy when we have experienced pain.

 

[bctt tweet=”Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.― Milton H. Erickson”]

Big Dreams and Small Fears

Published on by Eugene Morgan

Dream...

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears.— Richard Wilkins

Fears can interfere with our dreams. Our dreams become smaller when we spend so much energy in self-doubt. Dreams are really our hopes for what we wish to do or become in the future. Dreams help us to imagine ourselves in the future doing what we been wanting to do. If we can direct the energy of our fears toward our dreams, then we can see before our eyes how a dream becomes something that we can now touch.  Milton H. Erickson once said that there is little to fear. Fears have a way to not only to control us but also have a way of controlling others. Fear won’t allow us to imagine because imagination helps us to open up our minds for understandings thus decreasing our anxious.

 

[bctt tweet=”Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears.— Richard Wilkins”]

 

Start Crawling

Published on by Eugene Morgan

crawling to a new leaf

Post Written By Eugene Morgan

“If all you can do is crawl, start crawling.”  — Rumi

In other words, what abilities we already have, use them. We don’t necessarily need to have new abilities for us to do something. However, we can’t do anything without our abilities. Thus, we need to use our abilities for us to acquire new abilities. We have to start with the basics before we can advance properly if we want to present our best work. Before we could walk, we first learned how to crawl, and before we learned our to crawl we first learned how to move our legs and arms, and so on. This a process. This is how we progress to the next level. We have to learn certain things before we can move on to a higher level. In doing this, we’re slowly building a more stable foundation.  So crawling is a good thing to do today so eventually we will be walking.

 

[bctt tweet=”If all you can do is crawl, start crawling. — Rumi”]