Perspectives

Happiness Is A Direction

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“Happiness is a direction, not a place.”— Sydney J. Harris

So if we’re seeking happiness, then we must change direction. Changing direction implies to change the way we look at things. Moving from one location to a new location isn’t going to make the grass greener, or solve a problem necessarily. It all comes down to how we think about the situation. Happiness is accepting what we can’t change and but having an understanding that we can pull through things like we have done before. A change in direction helps us to create a new perspective on things; we see things with new fresh eyes. Happiness is a state of being. For us to appreciate being happy, we needed to go through difficult times. Happiness is a time to freely be who we are and to be in charge of our own life.

 

Look At Both Sides

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“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and focus on what could go right.” — Unknown

When we anticipate what could go wrong, it is our clue to ourselves that we’re afraid to put ourselves out there. We’re afraid to be and feel vulnerable because this creates discomfort. It is all right to see what could go wrong, but it is also all right to see what could go right. It would be good to our advantage to see both sides and not only be looking at only positive or only the negative side of things. When we look at what could go wrong, we can come up with a plan and be prepared to deal with it just as we can create a plan to build on what could go right in the situation.

 

A Shift In The Way We Look

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Sometimes we just got to look at a problem differently for us to better handle it. It does us no good to look at the problem the same way but only see it as something we can’t manage. Just a shift in the way we look at it can help us see things that seemed at the time impossible to solve. We are able to do; we just have to remove the blinds away from our eyes. Things weren’t hidden from us; we just didn’t know what and where to look.  We don’t have to look very far for our treasure, because we all possess it. We just got to learn how to use it.

 

The Way We Perceive It

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No one can perceive things in a 360 degree. We will never see the whole picture. What we perceive will always be through our filters. Our filters are our culture, our education and our background. That means each and every one of us brings in a unique perspective. So if we see someone succeeding far greater than the rest of us, then we know that person has found a way to expand his or her perception. For us to be successful in life we don’t have to see everything, but we can educate ourselves so we can widen our perception. Once our perception is widened then we can see that the choices are more available to us.

 

 

Making A Big Thing Out Of Nothing

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Sometimes we can make a problem bigger than it really is. When we do make the problem so big, then our stress level goes up.  When we get stressful, we aren’t as effective as we can be in solving the problem because with stress our minds are unclear. And under stress we become impatient and too quick to anger as a result we blame the world for everything that goes wrong. When we do get to this point, we need to sit back and relax and get back to the problem later. When our mind clears up we’re able to think better and the solution will come to us.

When We Make Mountains Out Of Molehills

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Sometimes we make things bigger than what they really are. When we make things bigger, we overreact instead of looking at the situation objectively.

We’re responding to our inflated opinions about the event instead of stepping back and asking ourselves how can we remedy the situation.

Becoming proactive is helpful because it decreases the anxiety that we created by our inflated opinion about the situation. There are things are truly horrific and there are things that are truly trivial.

We just have to meet in the middle and put things in perspectives without reacting to the situation but instead making some readjustments.

Don’t Fret, Do

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We ought not to fret about things, but do. At least we can do what we have control over. Even those things we don’t have control over we can always be put in a certain perspective so we can get through tough times.

Instead of fretting over the things we don’t have any control over, we can make them into a learning experience. The opinion of things is what makes us worry. Opinions can change. We are free to change our opinions about things, if we wish.

Since our attention can only focus on one thing at one time, we can focus on doing something constructive that will keep our minds away from those things we can’t change.

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Humor and Perspectives

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Humor is good for our health. Humor can discharge negative energy. Humor helps us to deal with a difficult situation. Humor is entertaining for mind, body and soul.

Humor lets us see things in a different light. Humor stimulates the mind into thinking up new ideas. Humor can be a good exercise in solving problems.

Humor can lift the weight of the world off our shoulders. We can find humor in anything, if we look for it. Humor is good at discharging tension or breaking the ice.

Humor makes us laugh. Humor feels good in our bodies. Humor helps support health as well as mental health. Humor lets us see different perspectives.  Humor has color. Humor finds truth in everything.

Put Things In Perspective

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When we’re about to face some difficulties, it is time to put some perspectives on them. Changing a perspective helps change our attitude about the difficulties.

What do we supposed to learn from this? Asking ourselves this question can help us put things in perspective. The difficulty can be dealt with better than if we ask ourselves why is this happening to me?

We take for granted our learning abilities. Learning is a very powerful way to get through difficulties. Life will always have challenges that will force us to make adjustments and that can make us stronger in the long run.

So why not put things in perspective to get through it because playing the victim game only makes things worse not better.

When We Can Laugh At Our Imperfections

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We all have imperfections. And we can laugh at them if we wish. Nonetheless, we sometimes focus too much on our imperfections.

When we see a self-portrait of ourselves, all we see is imperfections. In some cases, we may even distort them to an extreme.

But what we see is a lot different from what the other person sees. Two people, seeing the same object, see two different things.

But when we can laugh at our imperfections, our ideation about what we think we should look like eclipses. Interestingly, what we care most about, when it comes to self-image, others care less about.

It’s really about changing our ideation about what we should look like.

Uniqueness Brings Richness To A Community

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No one knows what we want in life. We know what are wants, desires and wishes are. What one desires is not always the same as another person’s desires.

Each one of us comes with unique perspectives. No person is exactly the same as another person. Everyone of us has the opportunity to express our uniqueness to the world.

Each one of us grew up differently, therefore has a unique perspective about life. Everyone brings in freshness and richness to a community.

We all can learn something from each other. When we begin to learn something from someone, our experience becomes enriching. Everyone gives and takes away something from a community, it is usually a needed resource of strength and more.

Change Your Prototype

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Milton Erickson doesn’t tell his patients that they will need more flexibilility; instead he sets up the patients to do something to break up the inflexibility.

Rigidity can create a lot of anxiety in our lives. We all have rigidity, some more than others. Some of us wonder why we can’t or we won’t make changes that will help us in the long run.

One reason that we refuse to make changes in our lives is rigidity. Rigidity is a form of generalization. Once upon a time in our earlier lives we experienced a negative event.

That one negative event built a prototype in our minds, which created a generalization for future similar events.  For example, a dog bites a child; therefore, the child will always fear every dog that he or she meets.

It’s not true that all dogs the child will meet will bite.  So what needs to change is the prototype of the original event.

The Things We Can’t Change

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There are some things we can’t change.  Those things we can’t change, we must let go. Acceptance helps us to deal with things we can’t change.

Things that are beyond our control, we can’t change. Acceptance can be a powerful force, because we can steer our energies into something else that we can change.

Although we can change some things, we can definitely change our attitude on the way we see things. This is about changing our perspectives.

Just as acceptance can be a powerful force, changing our perspectives can be as well. They both can save us a lot of energy. Energy is the power within us that can be put into good use.

Put A Positive Spin on A Difficult Situation

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When things aren’t working the way we want, we can put a positive spin on it. We can find something positive about what we’re doing.

It’s easy to look at it in a negative light.  Looking at things negative just enforces the negative attitude about the situation.

But when we put a positive spin on a difficult situation, we can begin to feel less stressful and our attitude becomes positive.

As we become positive, we can better handle the difficult situation and others around us can have an opportunity to change their attitude as well. Attitude and emotions is not a vacuum, everyone around positive and negative emotions are affected.

When Views are influenced

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After we have renewed ourselves visiting our loved-ones, we can take on the days ahead. Our unconscious mind is altered when we visit someone who we haven’t seen for a while.

It is because each one of us brings to gathering different points of view from different backgrounds. We’re changed a little after a gathering of people.

It’s interesting when we bring up what’s current in the news and develop a discussion and even a little debate about them.  We each have slightly different versions or more information about what’s now in the news whether it’s about taxes or politics.

 

 

Can Adults Learn From Children?

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What can we learn from children? A child likes to explore freely without limits. A child is not afraid to make a mistake when learning something new.

A child enjoys learning new things while playing. A child looks at things from a different view than an adult. Everything a child sees is from a clean slate.

Everything a child explores is new.  A child enjoys listening to stories. A child enjoys touching everything with his or her hands which includes tasting everything else.

A child can do anything, as long there’s a parent present to keep the child safe. Exploration and experience is a reoccurring theme that we can learn from a child. Scientists, archeologists, anthropologists, researchers are really children in grown up bodies.

No day is the Same

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Everyday is always different; it’s never the same. We will never repeat the same day, because each day is new.  A day is a gift, where it’s a new opportunity to begin anew.

One person may be experiencing a good day while another may be experiencing a bad day.  While we’re experiencing a bad day, we can recall our good days.

And while we’re experiencing our good days, we can recall how well we’ve gone through our bad days to get to where we are now. Our bad days is a time when we can focus on what really matters and our good days is a time when we can experience what really matters.

Different Personalities; Different Perspectives

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We ought not let others define who we are as people.  Sometimes we think that because someone wants us to be a certain way doesn’t mean there is something wrong with us. We’re all unique people.  Each of us looks at the world slightly different.

Sometimes, we find ourselves wanting to define or to change someone’s personality. We ought to leave the other person alone because he or she will, for the most part, find his or her own way through life just as we’re finding our own way.

Variety of personalities is better than everyone trying to fit into one type of personality.   We need different perspectives and different gifts and talents to give as citizens of the universe.

Staying Cool in a Chaotic World

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How do we keep cool when everything around us is chaotic?  We don’t have to react to an event, but it’s easy to react to an event.  When our response to an unpleasant event is like a knee-jerk reaction, then probably the event is controlling us. We feel a need to control the event that we think is controlling us.

But in reality the event we are reacting to, isn’t controlling us but the opinions about the event that is causing the knee-jerk reaction.  And it’s a lot easier to control us than try to control an event or someone’s behavior.

We can take a deep breath and we can refocus when things seems to be out of our control. Also, it can be helpful to change our opinions about things.

A Community of Potentials

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We are a community of people, which means, by our nature we are social creatures.  We cannot survive alone, we need one another to function.

Milton Erickson often mentions about human potential. We don’t know how far our potentials will take us when we work together.

We’re still in its infancy when it comes to our potentials.  But when we look back in history, we can see how far we’ve come, and we can see how far we must go.

We can ask ourselves, what potentials do we have that can make a different in our society?  And how can we work together to fulfill our potentials?