The things that are important to us are what we value. Values are the gatekeepers; it helps us make decisions. Our decisions are based on a set of values on what kind of friendship we have, what kind of car we drive, what kind clothes we wear, and etc. We like to match up with others with the same or similar value system. So, if we want to know something about ourselves, look at what decisions we’ve made in our lives then, look at the kind of friendships we’ve developed, look at what the kind of books we’ve read, look at the kind of food we’ve eaten, and etc.